Do we share a unifying reality?
In a time when the world is changing so rapidly and self exploration and manifesting our own realities are hot topics, it would be easy to fall under the trap of seeking examples of “truths” to live by in order to feel a sense of security. As if this truth is what our Creator intended for us all to follow.
Furthermore, sometimes we seek out people who seem to follow the "correct" truths, such as the people we admire, but in the end, their way of life still leaves us unfulfilled. Why?
Because there is no such unifying “truth” or a unifying “reality”, but rather endless parallel truths that can be gained from endless parallel realities depending on our choice of focus?
True fulfillment in life comes from knowing ourselves intimately and doing what we desire rather than following someone else's path. However, few will take their chances at discovering something that is truly their own. True happiness relies on gaining self knowledge and then having the bravery to act on what that self knowledge points to. Here are 11 suggestions I can give you for bringing back your focus to gaining self knowledge?
1. Focus within
From my own direct experience and studying many spiritual teachers including the likes of Eckhart Tolle, Abraham Hicks, Teal Swan, and Bentinho Massaro, I have learned that life is created from the inside out and that the world we personally experience is a reflection of who we are on the inside. This is different than the world we “hear” about.
Explore what the world feels like in your own direct experience. Does it feel safe? Does it feel exciting, benevolent or dangerous? What are the words you use to describe the nature of the world or life? These words will undoubtedly point to the kinds of thoughts and feelings, hidden or conscious, that you often practice about life and the world around. Your perception is what builds your reality.
2. Avoid group thinking in order to create your own version of life
When certain people express that it is a crazy world out there or dangerous, I don’t automatically agree with them. Even if at times I can’t verbalize it, on the inside, I choose not to blindly or lazily agree with other people’s point of views because I know that by agreeing to it, I am allowing information to sink into my conscious mind. Eventually with repeated acceptance, this agreed information will also then sink into my subconscious mind. Once my subconscious mind grabs a hold of that belief, I am doomed to experience it myself.
When people describe a reality that has not been my direct experience of the world, I take a second to consider what I am choosing to agree with. When I separate the two, their interpretation and mine, I see that there is a clear difference and how easily people assume for other people to be in agreement with their point of view.
For example, I have always felt protected and watched over by an unseen force even through the traumas I’ve experienced in life, such as losing both my parents in my teenage years.
It isn't yet clear to me exactly what this unseen force is? It could just be my higher self if not God or the angels I often call upon. One thing I know is that I can no longer agree about being abandoned at the scene of my most painful or devastating experiences anymore because I do have a recollection of something more powerful, yet so subtle that I could easily miss it, being at my side and this comes from a person who is not religious by any means.
3. Build your own connection to God
My connection to God is all through my own journey. As I started my journey of spending more focused time in self discovery and meditation years ago, I started to become familiar with more and more of his presence and developed my own understanding of who God is and what he feels like.
The concept of God became a very personalized idea for me based on the direct contact I made space for within myself. I got to remember how he was distinctly present and by my side at various times in my life, even in my early childhood. I'm convinced that there isn't a day he has missed in our union, I just needed to learn how to make finer and finer distinctions on how his presence can me experienced through me.
4. Form your own interpretation of life and the world
I now interpret and see the traumas I faced in my life as being gateways to a completely new evolved self. Even through the worst of times, there was a gentleness supporting me behind all the pain, like I said, I felt protected even in times of chaos.
Of course, at the time when it was happening, I did not have anywhere close to the level of consciousness I do now and it felt unbearable, but in hindsight, I have a different and deeper understanding and acceptance of those life experiences. I don’t view life as being cruel, I see it as benevolent and I see its paradoxical nature.
Furthermore, the loss of my parents has inspired me to develop non-physical relationships with them, which I would have never dreamt as being possible. They have delivered messages to me in ways that has totally expanded my awareness.
I have grown to understand the beauty and mystery of life after death. This all came after going through years of grieving their loss, it didn't just magically appear, but I do have a high level of refinement in my distinctions about life that would otherwise not exist if I didn't have these life altering experiences.
Hence, I can no longer agree with the fear based beliefs that many people carry around today, even if I have evidence that I too have suffered greatly.
5. Understand that life is easily changeable
I accept the idea that we are holographic projections of our thoughts and feelings because my life in retrospect feels more like a dream and less stuck in being "real".
When I compare my past with my present level of clarity, I can see how I am able to now easily shift my circumstances according to my point of focus and my level of non-attachment to the outcome. This way of creating definitely feels like creating a dream and less like being stuck in a life, a mind or a body that is slow to change.
This of course is completely opposite to being taught by my parents and society to rigorously climb up to my accomplishments with great ambition and hard work. So, it has not been easy for me to adopt this new way of thinking or manifesting. However, I keep challenging myself to take the path of least resistance more and more each day.
Through the path of least resistance, I've learned to show up 100% invested, ready to give it my all, but not worry about the outcome, so that my efforts are purely for the joy of doing what I am doing, not for the end result, even though I get my desired end result because I was so purely focus on the journey.
6. Recognize that our differences create different realities
How can a unifying reality or truth exist if we are all so individually different? This naturally would lead to a myriad of individualized holographic projections, none being in full agreement with one another, even if they come close.
Two people having the same experience will always have separate thoughts and feelings about that same experience. Hence, we each live in our own world created by our own beliefs, which are the thoughts and feelings we practice the most.
This concludes that there is no separate reality or truth outside of our own thoughts and feelings, which is the very reason we are in existence!
Since no two people are alike and if we are the Creator becoming aware of itself through our own individualized unique experiences, our unique experiences are really only meant for our own discovery and cannot truly be shared with anyone else, even if people come very close to understanding us. I will always be in my own experience, as you will always be in yours.
Our experiences cannot be shared because it defeats our life’s purpose, which is to add our own unique discoveries about life to the Creator’s pot of knowledge, without us influencing each other at the core level.
This explains when people choose to be hermits and dive in deep because they want to get more in touch with this practice of self reflection and creating something from a space that is truly their own.
It also makes sense how people would run away from this practice and distract themselves by the illusion of sharing a common reality with others and seeking constant validation for their thoughts, feelings and beliefs because it is scary to know that you are the ultimate creator of your life.
Hence, taking advice from other people can be helpful when you’re not quite ready to take full charge of deciding what to create, but there comes a time when you must decide to break free from the herd or tribe to truly create the life that is just right for your. This has less to do with being “ready” and more to do with being “decisive”.
7. Develop self trust
Cutting off from outside influence gives you immense freedom to self-explore without having anyone’s opinion or judgement weigh you down, since we don't currently live in societies that are enlightened to the ideas of making full use of our free will and personal choice.
You can just about consider everyone delusional when it comes to their opinion on your life. No one will ever know you like you know yourself. They have no way inside your bubble. This brings all the attention back to spending time alone with yourself in order to get to know yourself and eventually cultivate a strong sense of self trust.
Self trust truly reigns above all. The more you begin to trust yourself, the more you begin to trust your intuition and instincts and hence your life and the world around you. The more we doubt ourselves, the more we live by the opinion of others. In order to develop a strong level of self trust, we have to be willing to make lots of mistakes and own up to them so that we can finally be willing to trust our intuition above all else.
Trusting our intuition means all we really know is our next step, intuition doesn't make us fortune tellers, it just gives us our next level of guidance like a breadcrumb trail. That is why we call it self "trust".
8. Nothing in it of itself has a meaning
This is the most abstract and cutting edge spiritual knowledge. We get to apply whatever meaning we choose to whatever experience we have. Again, WE determine what our truth is as there is no truth or reality outside of us. So, if we can’t depend on the outside world for our life’s meaning since nothing has a inherent meaning to it, then there is only one place to look for our truth and the source of our reality, inside.
From here, we get to decide what everything on the outside means to us. The point is not to be "right", but to be "happy". This means that we can have several things going bad in our lives and to be "right" about our circumstances, we'd have all the reason to be angry, upset, overwhelmed or simply "unhappy".
Yet, if we decide to focus on the one thing in our life that is going good and be thankful about that and find as many reasons about that one thing to keep ourselves happy or positively focused in life, all those other things that aren't working out would have no choice but to line up to our dominant vibration, which is happiness. Hence, they would each shift from negative to positive and get resolved as if miraculously.
The challenge is to find every reason to be happy and our life will change to reflect our happiness. I have done this and can testify that it works 100%. However, it is the biggest obstacle in life to constantly focus on all the reasons to be happy versus all the reasons not to be sad, because we all love to be "right". Being "right" would mean being sad, judging so much of what we can't control about our lives.
Just remember, as we change our perspective, we need to stick to it long enough to create a positive momentum so that our circumstance have no choice but to shift to be positive. It is universal law. It is the law of vibration and the law of attraction, both of which I have learned first from Abraham Hicks.
9. Find out what governs your insides
Our subconscious and conscious mind that generates our thoughts. Then, our feelings which are our direct link to our higher self (soul/spirit) indicating whether or not we are thinking the right or wrong thoughts that's personal to our own makeup.
When we think a thought and feel bad, we are not thinking thoughts that are in agreement with our higher self. When we feel good thinking about certain thoughts, we are in agreement with our higher self.
If you picture your higher self floating above you and having a clear vision of the near future, he or she would know what is coming ahead. So, as we go through certain situations that feel uncertain or unpredictable, we can always rely on our feelings about our thoughts to guide us to our desired outcomes like an internal compass.
Now we can see how two people can think the same thought, but have different feelings associated to that thought, which clearly indicates that what is right for one of them, is not necessarily right for the other. It would be unfair to force both people to agree on the same thought when their internal guidance suggests otherwise.
Second to this internal guidance is our inspiration. When we are inspired, that is a clear signal from our higher selves, or the Creator prompting us to take action on what is “specifically” good for us. It is a sign saying “yes, go in this direction”!
So, good feeling thoughts and inspiration is what we should follow. We don’t need to spend time on finding a unifying truth to guide us since truth is highly individualized.
10. Drop the addiction to seeking the truth
I have to admit that as much as I am a freethinker and rebellious by nature, always carving out my own path, I have struggled for a long time in seeking out the truth about life to make sense of all the times my life spun out of control.
My challenge lies in letting go of accumulating knowledge in order to feel “in control” of my life by seeking the truth about it and instead rely on being more “in the question” and trust that there is nothing to figure out, but rather so much to explore, create and enjoy.
So, is it pointless then to be a truth seeker? It depends on if you use it to control your life, which means your ego is needing this control, in which case, it doesn't serve you. If it is a genuine interest that inspires you and gives you more energy in the pursuit of it, then no.
However, I do know that through the path of least resistance, if we can let go of needing to know the truth or figuring out reality, we can spend more time on creating both. This direct experience would allow us to know them both as a result of just being on the journey, without us directly seeking the truth.
11. Direct your focus on what inspires you
Do what feels good for you without needing the validation of anyone else. People who truly love and care for us, will accept us for who we are, at least this has been my experience.
By listening to our feelings and being guided by our inspiration, we get to create our own unique reality and shed light on the slice of life that no one else was cut out to explore. We don’t need to compare ourselves to others or use their interpretations of life as a excuse to not discover our own reality that is best suited for us.
Also, by dropping the search for the “truth” in order to feel a sense of security during a time of great change, we get to instead create life through what inspires us and be the change we seek, which can give us a great sense of security for taking action on what we believe!